Why I Advocate Against Time Outs

August 19, 2017

Want to watch the video version of this post? You can do that right here! But you need to be a member of the Parenting Posse, or that link will just lead you to dead air. Request to join here. For lots of people- time outs are just considered to… Read more

Transitioning to Two: 4 Strategies to Smooth The Addition of a New Baby

July 16, 2017

The day I saw those two little pink lines- for the second time- was more confirmation of my fears than anything. But it was still a shock. I was pregnant with my second, and I was NOT ready. To say this wasn’t the plan would have been a wild understatement.… Read more

When Your Poker Face Sucks- Getting Caught off Guard

June 18, 2017

Recently, there was a question in the Posse about what to do when your child catches you off guard with new and confusing behaviour and you react poorly before you really recognise what’s happening. It’s something we all struggle with- we’re humans, not robots. But how can you recover gracefully… Read more

Hitting, Biting, Kicking: Dealing with Aggression

May 30, 2017

It’s possibly the worst feeling as a parent: when you realise your kid is actively displaying aggression towards others. Why are they doing this? Where did they learn it? How COULD THEY?! The shame is strong with this one, and you want to react appropriately so that it’s clear this… Read more

Planned Ignoring: Dealing with Attention Seeking Behaviour

April 16, 2017

Sometimes the best way to get someone’s attention is to stop giving them yours. Have you ever heard that saying before? It often seems ridiculous to parents when I suggest it: why on earth would I let them get away with something I don’t want to them to do?! And… Read more

The Parenting Posse: your virtual village.

April 14, 2017

Have you ever found yourself becoming the go-to person about a certain topic? I know I have a particular friend I consult with on all things DIY, another I ask all my cooking questions to and someone totally different who I have no shame in asking advice on organising and decluttering.… Read more

Extinction Bursts: Why What You’re Doing “Isn’t Working.”

March 1, 2017

If you’re a part of my Facebook group (or even if you aren’t) you’ve probably heard me refer to the term “extinction bursts”. Usually at the end of a post in a warning tone. This is a term that I use a lot when describing a child’s behaviour that “is… Read more

Using Declarative Statements with Toddlers and Preschoolers

February 27, 2017

How often do you find yourself saying things like “Stop that.” “Put that down.” “Come here.” “Sit still.” ?  I feel like as the mother I’m constantly barking commands that have little to no effect. Sound familiar? This is what’s called imperative language. Imperative language is used for functional purposes… Read more

An Introduction To Natural and Logical Consequences

February 25, 2017

Natural and Logical Consequences are a method child guidance (often called a discipline method) that has certain advantages over other methods- such a timeouts: They’re connected, make sense, and real.  The punishment has to fit the crime- they aren’t made up. They’re self-enforcing. After a while, the child learns the… Read more